Has your relationship suddenly become more challenging than ever and you just don’t know where to turn? Have you read numerous relationship books and advice columns and nothing seems to really help? Are you longing to return to how things were in the beginning of your relationship when you felt much more loved and connected than you do now? Do you feel like your relationship could be happier and more loving but you just don’t know how to get there? You are not alone. We’ve all felt that way at some point! I can help.
I am a Marriage & Family Therapist and Relationship Specialist in Newport Beach, CA practicing individual and couples relationship counseling, as well as pre-marital and marriage counseling.
Secure and loving relationships are crucial to our well-being and success in life. However, being in a relationship can sometimes be difficult. When the bad outweighs the good, you may start to think that there is something wrong with you or your partner. But there is nothing wrong with either of you!
The problem is likely that you have not been taught the skills necessary to be in an intimate relationship over the long term or you have a belief system that is getting in the way of feeling as close and connected as you could.
Individual counseling or couples therapy can teach you these important skills, challenge your faulty belief systems and identify communication issues that are preventing you from having the successful, loving relationship you long for.
Many of us think that relationships should not require a lot of work. It was so easy in the beginning and it makes sense that we wish that phase never ended. We are socialized to believe that we will find our “soul mate” and can then sit back, do nothing, and live happily ever after. This is just not the case!
When things become difficult it’s easy to start blaming our partner or the relationship for being the problem, when it’s very likely that the behaviors you and your partner are engaging in are eroding the love and joy you once felt with each other.
We all need information on how to have great relationships and we usually don’t get this training anywhere in our lives.
As a marriage counselor, I offer this vital learning experience including how to:
- Reduce resentments & appreciate the differences between you and your partner
- De-escalate hostility in arguments
- Stand up for yourself productively without making things worse
- Examine inaccurate belief systems that hold you back
- Resolve conflicts in a way that addresses both partner’s needs
- Recover from breaches of trust including infidelity and other major betrayals
- Learn non-blaming communication skills
- Create more intimacy and increase connection with the important people in your life
- Forgive yourself and your loved ones for past hurts
And much more!